Please help i'm stuck in the writing of my story?

Well, i think if you were going to use the latter background story jay, would either have to be a very strong person, or a person that is very good at pretending everything is ok. it depends whether you would want him to be an embattled soul who is deeply scarred by his experiences, but they were beyond his control entirely, or whether he has been mislead and he now wants to prove to himself and possibly others that his past will not shape him. i think the first background story would fit better in a 'sad/overcoming sadness/pleasantly ending story. whereas the other would fit nicely in a darker story/story with darker complications. hope that helps, good luck!